How does counselling work?

Counselling works by allowing individuals to fully process and address difficulties in their lives which are causing distress.  Sometimes we can become "stuck" in a cycle which we feel unable to escape.  Research has shown that the best way to break out of this cycle is talking therapy because this allows the brain to process the issues it is struggling with.  Often, we do not talk about our feelings or negative thoughts and this forces us to supress a great deal of anxiety.  When we do this, it has a detrimental affect on our mind and body as the stress and strain bubbles away beneath the surface.  It is difficult for us to address these issues as we tend to consider the needs of others and don't want to burden anyone.  We also keep alot of our thoughts to ourselves through fear of judgement or rejection.  Counselling allows for a real and honest  relationship which is like no other as you have complete freedom to really explore those thoughts and feelings without any repercussions.  Having this freedom is like a breath of fresh air that allows you to finally breathe and let go of alot of the weight you have been carrying.

How does it work with children?

Play therapy is often used with younger children who struggle to identify and express their emotions.  It involves the use of toys, games and creative materials which allow for children to self-express in a safe way.  It also helps the child to develop a sense of trust and comfortability in having therapy.  As the child begins to express their feelings, we can gently explore this and discuss coping strategies.
For adolesents, therapy essentially works the same as for adults.  They have the freedom to discuss whatever they choose and I support them in exploring those topics.
 
What about confidentiality?

Confidentiality is a vital part of counselling and one of the main ethical standards i am commited to.  It is important for all my clients to know that they are safe to talk openly and freely.  However, i also have a duty of care towards my clients and their safety and must respond to any serious risks of harm.  This means I am required to report incidents where there is a significant risk to the client or another persons safety and outsource further help.  Where possible, I will discuss this with my client first.   I am also legally required to report incidents of money laundering, drug trafficking and acts of terrorism.    For further information, please refer to www.bacp.co.uk terms of confidentiality.

I am a parent, will I be told what my child discusses?

I understand it is incredibly hard for parents and guardians to have their child attend counselling.  Children and adolecents typically don't tell their parents everything and this can be very worrying for families who are desperately wanting to help. It is natural to want to know what is being bought up during therapy but for therapy to work, there needs to be confidentiality.  It is an essential part of the process which if removed, there is no foundation of trust and honesty.  Having worked with children and young people, i have often found that as the individual goes through the counselling process, they become more able and willing to discuss their thoughts with family members. We will often explore ways in which they can broach these issues with their family if this is something they are struggling with.  In terms of safeguarding, I have a duty to prioritise childrens safety above all else.  This means I am required to report any incidents where there is significant risk of harm. More information can be found at www.bacp.co.uk

How many sessions will i need?

There is no obligation to attend a specific number of sessions.  I understand that you may wish to try one or two sessions to determine if it is right for you.  To gain the best result from therapy, a minimum of six sessions is recomended, but not compulsary.  I am happy to carry out ongoing sessions or one off appointments.

What if I don't know what to talk about?

Please don't worry.  Many people struggle to know where to begin.  It is my priority to make you feel comfortable and at ease. Some people prefer to start with some light conversation, whilst others feel ready to get straight into deep discussion.  I will always go at the pace you are comfortable with.